- 1 What is Manolo Syndrome
- 2 What is Maripili Syndrome
- 3 Manolo and Maripili at home
What is Manolo Syndrome?
Not well known Manolo syndrome It was first proposed a few years ago after a study by Professor Carme García Ribas of the Pompeu Fabra University of Barcelona, which described the arrogant behavior of many managers whose fear (not recognized) of failure makes them appear aggressive and Authoritarian with their workers.
The Manolo is a Man in principle charismatic, but also arrogant, is proud, lacks the basic principles of courtesy, does not listen and destroys the creativity of other employees, which also tend to be much more competent and bright than him. The abuse of power causes workers to feel undervalued, demotivated and work less. This disruptive behavior can easily produce meaningless economic losses and irreparable damage to the company.
Manolo has a deep fear of "not being", which leads him to show that arrogant and disdainful behavior towards others, is like a Defense mechanism which he uses to feel more important, and his type of treatment is not very human and he does not know how to get involved.
What is Maripili Syndrome?
Carme García also defined the Syndrom of the Maripilis, women who try to please everyone, who never feel satisfied with themselves, which leads them to become extremely obedient, docile and submissive people. They flee from power and success, are not ambitious and suffer from a deep-rooted feeling of little value.
This behavior, like the previous one, is fear fruit, and it is fear that drives some and others to seek security in these stereotypes, behaving completely opposite and polarized.
The man fears failure and the woman rejection
And, the greater the submission there is from them, the more aggressiveness there will be on their part. This is the reason for the paradox that many women who today (unlike their mothers and grandmothers) could be independent, continue to endure the psychological and even physical aggressions of their partners.
The question then is, why now, when submission is no longer an explicit cultural norm, are they still resorting to it? The answer according to Carme García could be that "many women still live immersed in Maripili syndrome, and submission is no longer an obligation or an imposition, but a identity trait. With the aggravating fact that these attitudes feed their opponents, they do nothing but reinforce male arrogance. So today, instead of being more independent, what we are is better slaves. "
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Manolo and Maripili at home
Manolo and Maripili syndrome can also be found in the family environment, understanding the Manolo as a man who behaves authoritatively and arrogantly at home, especially with your partner, but also with your children.
This is a prototype husband and father who works all day, is usually late home and does not devote free time to his wife or children, except for very rare occasions. This type of father and husband will never request a reduction in working hours or reorganize his schedule to be with his family, since his work life and work are his priority, also being understood as a source of recognition and personal value.
In addition, what he usually does when he comes home, whatever time it is, is to go to the corner bar to hang out with his friends and take some pints, lie on the sofa in front of the TV or Tablet to enjoy his time free without anyone bothering you, or go jogging or cycling to improve being fit and upload your personal brand. Anyway, anything but help with household chores or worry about children.
Basically it is a narcissistic father accustomed to almost always doing what he wants at that moment, delegating the responsibilities of the house to the woman.
As to the Maripili, maybe she is a housewife, but it can also be a working woman, who contributes money to the family economy, and also, as you can imagine, takes care of their children and is responsible for carrying out the home. His working day, inside and outside the home, doubles compared to his. She is a "multitasking" woman with very little time for herself. In the long run, this causes him to lose his friendships and abandon his hobbies. After numerous and useless attempts to discuss the issue with your partner so that things change, you feel desperate and confused; alone before the task of educating their children and deceived as far as the marital relationship is concerned.
At this point, Maripili has two ways left: to continue like this for the rest of her life, accepting and assuming her role as a self-sacrificing and submissive woman for fear of change, or perhaps to be left alone (although she does not realize that in fact it already is), or stand up and claim his presence, his strength and his enormous worth once and for all.
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