The asexuality is a term that lately seems to be fashionable. You do not know what it is? Today, we talk about what is asexuality, the sexual inclination towards having no sexual interest (yes, it is an oxymoron, but it is the best way to express it).
- 1 What is asexuality?
- 2 But ... What do we know scientifically about asexuality?
- 3 But then ... Are they lonely people?
What is asexuality?
Asexuality is usually considered a sexual orientation, but in reality, it is quite the opposite, because it is a sexual non-orientation. They are people who do not feel sexual desire of any kind, neither in front of men, nor in front of women, nor in front of any other gender or paraphilia that we could imagine.
It is important to note that it is not an ideology or a sexual orientation, but it is a condition in which a person does not feel moved to have sexual relations of any kind.
But this motivation cannot come from religious or cultural feelings. That is, it is not celibacy. Simply, they are people who naturally have no interest in sex.
Of course, it should be noted that although it is not an ideology or sexual orientation, asexuals and the organizations to which they belong have established political links to improve their visibility and be better considered in society. That is why, on many occasions, they go hand in hand with the LGBT movement.
And, for some time now, there are many asexuals who have come together to claim that society is not so focused on sexual desire, and It is not necessary to have sex to receive social approval from other people.
That is why there are associations and communities such as the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), focused on publicizing knowledge and experiences related to asexuality and giving voice to asexual people. And it is not a small association, precisely, since it has more than 10,000 members.
But ... What do we know scientifically about asexuality?
The truth is that not enough.
Asexuality is a condition that has been studied very little, and, therefore, we have very little data to grasp scientifically speaking.
In this sense, it is necessary to understand that, as much information is lacking and there have not been enough serious studies, there is no theory to explain what are the bases of asexuality and why it originates, nor how are the people affected.
In turn, this hinders the work of visibility and sensitivity regarding asexuality, because people are not able to understand this condition, and the Absence of information does not facilitate the work of empathizing.
And it is that, in many occasions, people tend to think that asexuality is an ideological position or a fiction that repressed people carry out. And, of course, as happened with homosexuality, it usually happens that it looks like some kind of illness or disease symptom.
But then ... Are they lonely people?
As we say, there is not enough information to say if asexuals, as a group, are this or that thing. However, asexual associations have talked about this issue, and therefore It is the closest information we have to try to understand them.
In general, asexuals claim that they are totally capable of having normal relationships with everyone, Y they are also able to have emotional and intimate relationships, although not necessarily sexual.
This last point is important: Many asexuals do not have the need to have sex, but they do have the need to have emotional relationships. That is why, in some cases, to satisfy their partner, they do decide to have sex.
It is important to understand this: The asexual person who has that kind of sexual relationship does not have them because he feels pleasure with it (nor displeasure). He simply does it to satisfy his partner, because he understands that the other party may have that need.
However, as you can imagine, a relationship between an asexual and a sexual person is somewhat complicated, because nobody likes to have to satisfy their partner without receiving any kind of pleasure in return, and No one likes to have sex with a person who doesn't enjoy you.
However, it is important to note that such relationships do exist and that, although they are less frequent and (apparently) less functional than sexual-sexual or asexual-asexual, they may work.
But, as we say, This is something we can venture by virtue of what asexuals and their organizations say, it is not something that has been studied scientifically and, therefore, this information should be taken with tweezers.
As you can see, asexuality is a reality. There are people who do not feel sexual attraction of any kind, neither towards men nor towards women. So, if you have never felt sexual attraction, do not feel alone. You may be asexual.